Sorry seems to be the hardest word when we
have caused hurt to someone, the act of apologizing can be something takes a
long time for us to get round to. On the other hand, if it's your mother that
you’ve upset, you could feel a considerable amount of guilt but also want to
make it up to her in the best way possible. But if you have a fractious
relationship, what can you do to ensure that, not only are you apologizing
properly, but that it doesn't damage things further?
Write A
Letter
The best way for you to get your deepest
thoughts out at any point in life is by writing a letter to yourself. When you
are struggling to find the words to say in person, a letter can be one of the
most heartfelt things. Beware; in writing a letter to your mother, it can easily
be an opportunity to avoid confrontation. But if the letter is
heartfelt, or if there are mitigating circumstances, such as you live far away
or there is bad blood between you two anyway, a letter can be one of the best
forms of contact.
Say It
With A Proper Gift
Be careful with a gift. Of course, it can be
easy to buy a gift for the man in your life or another family member
under normal circumstances because you know what they like, but if you are
struggling to find common ground with your mother, sometimes a gift can give
off the impression that you haven't put much thought into it. While many people
go down the florist route, flowers can be a little bit
clichéd. Saying that, it depends on the person who's receiving the gift. It's
far better for you to get them a gift that you know they will appreciate. But
at the same time, don't give off the impression that you are buying them off.
Do It
In Person (And Mean It!)
If you are truly sorry, and you know the
extent of how much you hurt them, then surely the best way for you to do it is
in person? You can easily tell yourself that they won't listen to your apology,
but the fact that you've gone to such lengths to be apologetic to them in
person, speaks volumes. The big thing when apologizing is that we don't always
sound genuine when we do say sorry. If you are truly sorry, then it's going to
be genuine. Sometimes we can feel that we have to say sorry because we need to
get the status quo back, or it's for the benefit of everyone else, but if you
upset the one person in your life that has looked after you, it can feel very
heartbreaking on both sides.
Sorry is one of those words we struggle to say
from time to time, but when you are saying sorry, you are taking responsibility
for your actions. This is one of the big things that we struggle to come to
terms with, and when you are considering how to apologize, sincerity is always
the most important thing.
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Happy Saturday friends. I hope you are having a great weekend. I just finished a mile run and have plans to paint my son's desk and a set of wall hooks for the boy's room later today. I am trying to get our home organized before school starts and get rid of things that we don't use or need any more. I feel like we just have so much stuff.
I wanted to share this article with you. It really resonated with me, especially with one of my mentee's struggling with some of the things mentioned. I won't go into details but sometimes as parents the hardest thing to do is to say that we are sorry and vice versa with our children. As adults, its our job to teach our children and learning to apologize and genuinely mean it is a prime example.
I hope that you have a wonderful weekend. Thanks for stopping by and visiting us today. Have a great day.
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